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šŸ’« Sienna Clarke
Real Life Resilience
5 min readSep 23, 2019

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Why I Love Myself More Than I Love My Children

Donā€™t read too much into that title. I love my children more than I love chocolate.

But I love ā€œMeā€ more.

I was 22 when I had our first child. A girl. And when she was born, I knew that Iā€™d never loved anyone or anything as much as I loved her. She was so helpless and tiny it scared me.

At 25 I had our second child. Another girl. Like the first one, she was equally as helpless and tiny as her sister was. Only she had a big sister, who doted on her like a little mother.

At 29 I had our last child. A boy. Again, tiny and helpless. I was done with the whole ā€˜having kidsā€™ thing.

I spent my 20ā€™s having kids, and my 30ā€™s and 40ā€™s raising those kids. Those were days of thinking and worrying about them 24/7. Divorced at 31, as a single mom, any and everything that they needed had to come from me.

Every second of every day was spent on what they needed. That was my job.

I didnā€™t have a social life because, wellā€¦Iā€™m a bit of an introvert, so making an effort to go out wasnā€™t something that I thought I needed.

But I did.

In hindsight, I think the fact that I didnā€™t consciously take care of my own mental and emotional needs then, is biting me in the ass now.

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Real Life Resilience
Real Life Resilience

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A primer on becoming a more resilient person, stories of recovery and resilience, and resources for living a more joy-filled life.

šŸ’« Sienna Clarke
šŸ’« Sienna Clarke

Written by šŸ’« Sienna Clarke

Single mom to 3 grown ups. Growing into my writing career and enjoying the progress. I write mostly about self discovery, self improvement and relationships.

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